that he was bad by existing alone. He wants to atone for smiotheng that isn't a crime, instead of fighting the real crimes. He can fight sexism without self-flagellating.True, there probably are things that participate in our oppressing others, though some we have no control over. We should focus on the ones that we do have control over, or could have control over (through law and company policy I imagine). You can't decide which race or sex you were raised as, but you can fight sexism and racism, and assumptions based on it. I always cringe hearing sexist things, and will tell my boyfriend it makes me cringe even if my opinion is not always popular with him regarding the matter (he thinks all the forums/blogs I visit are populated by insane people who represent a tiny tiny tiny fraction of the real world). He's not misogynist in much of what he does but he is sometimes in what he thinks overall he's better than most.Rad fems seem to want to argue that since trans women are not cis women they can not be in the category women.Many go further than that they argue that since they were raised as men, they can never be women, in any way, shape, or form, and that claiming to be a woman (if trans) is reifying gender roles and all about dresses and pink. The bodymap thing doesn't compute for them, even with mAndrea who's read tons of comments from Zoe Brain about it. So it's always reduced to gender roles, and butch trans women are all ignored in favor of the media representation.And trans men? Well, they're really deluded butch women who've been had about gaining male privilege and being allowed to do more stuff as men instead of staying as females and fighting the patriarchy. That's the theory anyway.If one accepts that sexism is the first prejudice from which all others follow (an unprovable assertion), then this lends itself to minimizing other axes of oppression, such as racism, homophobia, and transphobia. It doesnâ€™t necessitate minimizing other forms of oppression. But it assigns a kind of specially important role to sex discrimination that Iâ€™m not sure is warranted.In the thread in question, I quoted a passage I posted on FC blog (pretty sure it's on the most recent open thread) about how some deny having any privilege and how it's so divide and conquer to say women have any privilege at all. Not class, race or non-trans privilege the only oppression worth uniting about is that of women, period. It sounds selfish, and kind of reminiscent of MRAs who deny male privilege.This is the quote:â€œThat fucking â€˜privilegeâ€™ thing is annoying too â€“ Iâ€™m tired of being told Iâ€™m â€˜privilegedâ€™ for a life that I was born into. Iâ€™m privileged just for existing. What an asshole.â€ For instance, Iâ€™m fat, and I seem to recall youâ€™re thin. So weâ€™re both women, but I have experience as a fat woman, and you have experience as a thin woman.Well, I'm less thin now. I'm umm, neither now. I was 105-115 lbs for 5'6 , I went up to 146 lbs, and now down to 140 lbs. I'm aiming for a more healthy (than 110) 125 lbs, ultimately, in a few months. I do have a belly now. And 50% of my clothing doesn't fit anymore (especially pants and some tighter non-stretch skirts, belly shirts are obviously off the menu too). I've been abnormally thin for basically all my life rum changed it it's highly caloric. Now less rum, and more exercise. I didn't drink at all before being with my boyfriend.It seems to me that the rad fems get hung up on that last difference, which is not very significant in terms of all the other words Iâ€™ve just put down about our similarities and our differences.Probably because male privilege is sometimes presented as woman-hating, violent, hypersexual, and with access to the best jobs and wages with no merits at all. And trans women are all presented as 40-something fathers-husbands who've had jobs as executives or professionals, living wealthily right until transition. It's the media representation, too except porn.I transitioned at 24, with a high school diploma and perspectives in minimum wage jobs at least some of them. I was celibate for pretty much all of that period, and certainly not a father. So I don't fit, but square peg meet round hole.I know a couple trans women about my age, and in similar situations. Some work, some can't find any. None were ever married or fathered.